Bi-Polar Disorder and Divorce 

Bi-Polar disorder is an imbalance in the brain's mood regulating system.
Living with someone who suffers from this condition may be quite stressful,
and relationships can become strained. Studies show that 60% of marriages in which a spouse has bi-polar disorder end in divorce. Symptoms of this condition include mood swings, irritability, denial, restlessness, depression and aggressive behavior. Bi-Polar disorder is a condition that can affect a person throughout life, and treatment can be lifelong. Half of those who are diagnosed with the condition also have a drug or alcohol problem. Men and women can both be affected by the disorder, equally. Many people who are bi-polar have suicidal tendencies. If your spouse suffers from this condition you need to stay apprised of his or her mood swings, so as to be aware of severe bouts of depression, or other potential emotional downswings. You want the best for your spouse's health, your family, and your relationship.

People who suffer from bi-polar disorder may get angry easily, and are very pessimistic. This type of attitude would put a strain on any relationship, and if the disorder is compounded with a drug or alcohol problem. it makes it even worse. It is difficult to deal with the extreme mood swings relative to bi-polar disorder. Those who experience episodes of aggressive behavior, may also be prone to abusive behavior. Although bi-polar disorder can be treated with medication, it may well be worth trying to get the individual involved in counseling, such as anger management classes. It is also wise to educate yourself on this condition, if your spouse is affected. By learning about the condition and understanding it, you will be better equipped to deal with it. Counseling can help you to assist your spouse, and in doing so, you will help yourself as well.

Joining a support group is another avenue to consider. Many local hospitals offer counseling and support for spouses and families of people who suffer from this disorder, and other conditions. They can provide educational materials, answer any questions you may have, provide support, and help enlighten those who do not understand the condition. People who are afflicted with bi-polar disorder can lead normal, healthy lives with the proper medication and therapy. If your spouse is in denial and refuses to recognize that there is a problem, see a counselor yourself, first, and perhaps together you may be able to try and ease your spouse into a helpful form of therapy.

A marriage does not have to end in divorce because a spouse suffers from bi-polar disorder, or other similar conditions. If you want to make your marriage work, you can take steps to help your spouse live a healthy and productive life. Realizing that your spouse is ill is the first step. Getting your spouse to realize his or her illness is the next step toward health, and a professional can guide you and your spouse the rest of the way. Be patient, understanding, and take it one step at a time.