The Challenge of a Busy Toddler

It seems that since my toddler son could toddle, he has been into everything. If I turn my back even for a moment, he is climbing on the couch, figuring out how to work the television, or dumping a box of cereal on the floor. Being the parent of two other children who happened to be laid back, I was caught totally off guard by my little experimenter. So, I figured I could either allow myself to slowly descend into toddler oblivion, or I could try to develop some strategies for dealing with his high level of activity.

One of the hardest places to handle any child is at the grocery store. However, making certain that my son has had an energetic activity such as dancing around the house or running around the yard prior to going shopping, really seems to make our time there a bit easier. A box of animal crackers is also nice to have handy. Active children who have been sedentary right before a trip to the store are more likely to test you because their brain is telling them to explore their surroundings when you want them to sit in the cart for what seems like an eternity to their young minds.

Busy and energetic toddlers also benefit from a regular schedule. If they have an idea about what is going to happen next in their day, they do not become as anxious. According to several books on active toddlers, some tantrums can be thwarted by simply stating to the child the order of the events that are next in their day. Evidently, it is not so much having to stop play or leave now that poses the problem, it is more that they are anxious about what is coming next in the day.

Also, try to say "yes" whenever possible. I know that it can be incredibly tough to let go of some things - like a clean kitchen floor (this is one of my personal pet peeves!), but active children really enjoy attempting to do things for themselves. Try to let them have a fork at dinner, or drink from a "big kid" cup. Even little things that show you have confidence in your toddler can make a big difference in their behavior. In addition, try using redirection whenever a "no" situation is not a matter of safety. For instance, you probably do not want your toddler changing the channel on the television, but instead of simply saying "no", try smiling and saying something like "why don't we build with blocks now".

Above all, remember that all children whether active or laid back, learn from experience. And, that half of trial and error, is error. A child that is attempting to do new things on his own, is showing his confidence in the safety of his surroundings, and in those that are there to protect him. He is curious about his world, and wants to be, and do, all that you can be and do. Active children are definitely a challenge, but their willingness to try, and their unyielding curiosity, are absolutely fascinating to watch. Enjoy it while you can, it won't be long before you are teaching your active toddler to drive!