| Making the decision to get a divorce is one that requires plenty of soul searching. This is a decision that takes
a lot of thought, and one that should never be taken lightly. I lost my husband in a car accident this month, and this incident has prompted me to write about the seriousness of the decision to divorce. I will admit that we had our
share of problems, and there were probably times when we were both ready to call it quits, but through it all we stuck it out because whether or not we wanted to admit it, we loved each other.
 I came into my second marriage fresh from the break-up of my first
marriage, and with two young sons. I put them through one divorce, and I certainly didn't want to do that again. Divorce is hard on everyone, and it is not something that you want to have to repeat. My second husband took on a huge
responsibility when he chose to marry me and accept my two sons as his own. As I said though, this loss has hit me hard, and when something tragic like this occurs, it really makes one think. You remember the good times, but you also
dwell on what you could have, and should have, done differently. You hear your own words echoing in your head. You remember the disagreements over insignificant things.
My husband and I had many, many hard times, but no matter what we went through, we had each other. Now, I feel totally alone. Although I have my children, I am still alone in a
sense. Any further hardships that I must endure will be done by myself. Even the difficult times were easier to handle when I had my husband with me. Life is so short and moments are so fragile, that we must be absolutely certain when
we make a life- altering  decision such as divorce.
If you are thinking of divorcing your spouse, think long and hard. Be absolutely certain that your decision is in the best interests of you and your children. Make sure that you
have exhausted all other alternatives. Be certain that you have no other choice and there is nothing more you can do to sustain your relationship. Give your marriage every chance you can before you walk away. If you have considered
all possibilities, then make your decision, knowing in your heart that you did all that you could do. But if you feel that your marriage has the slightest hope of being salvaged, do all you possibly can to heal the relationship for
yourself, your partner and your family. Someday you might be thankful you did.
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