It may be common nature to look, but an eye that wanders too far astray may be headed
straight for divorce. The leading cause of divorce is cheating. Although infidelity does not always cause a marriage to end in divorce it is not easy to forgive and may put a major strain upon a relationship which, compounded with
other factors, may be the final straw. Learning that one's spouse has been unfaithful will no doubt produce a host of emotions; mainly hurt and anger. But before running off to get a divorce, weigh the situation thoroughly to see if
the marriage can be saved. There are some signs that may indicate a spouse is being unfaithful, such as a wandering eye, coming home late, leaving at odd times, and hang up
calls. If a spouse suddenly starts acting different in some way or starts seeing an old flame frequently, or socially, it may be a sign of infidelity. Any or all of these signs do not necessarily mean that your spouse is being
unfaithful. Don't jump to conclusions. You should be certain that your spouse is cheating before you put your marriage on the line. Should you confront your spouse if you suspect infidelity?  The answer to this question will depend upon many factors, including the individual situation and the
spouse's temperament. If a spouse has been abusive in the past, it would be better not to get into a confrontation and put yourself at risk. The best course of action may be to seek advice from a professional, such as a marriage
counselor. Many otherwise good marriages have been destroyed by a spouse's infidelity. There are people who are excellent providers, wonderful parents and good-natured individuals who have a problem being faithful to their spouses.
In some cases, a person is able to admit that they have a problem and are willing to seek professional help. A marriage on the rocks can be mended. Every relationship is different,
and the circumstances in each relationship are as unique as the individuals themselves are. While some marriages may not survive the strain of infidelity, others will overcome and last a lifetime. If your spouse has been unfaithful,
there will be several questions that you will need to answer honestly. Is the marriage worth saving? Do you want
to make the marriage work?
Does your spouse want to make the marriage work?
 Many times people will blame themselves for their
spouse's infidelity. We tend to feel that our spouse cheated on us because of something we did, or did not do. Don't blame yourself for your spouse's weakness. You may not be the perfect wife or husband, but no one is. You did not
make your spouse be unfaithful. Each of us makes our own choices. Your spouse is responsible for the choice he or she made. Don't allow them to put you on a guilt trip over their mistakes. If you love your spouse, and both of you want
to make your marriage work, then forgiveness is the first step. It may take some time before you are able to trust again, but forgiveness and time will eventually heal the wound. Let divorce be your last resort.
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