At one time or another in a relationship, most people tend to suspect their partner of cheating on them whether they are, or not. Sometimes jealousy or insecurity may cause our imaginations to run a bit wild but, in some cases, there is good reason to be suspicious. Before you start accusing your spouse of infidelity, you should be sure that you have good reason to confront your spouse about cheating. Oftentimes, we jump to conclusions over insignificant assumptions. Seeing one's spouse talking to someone of the opposite sex, for example, is not sufficient reason to suspect that a spouse is having an affair. Most spouses become suspicious when their significant other begins to spend more time away from home, and works later and later.

One hint that seems to suggest an extra-marital affair is when one no longer seems to have a sexual interest in the spouse. But even these things do not necessarily mean that your spouse is cheating. There could be other factors behind your spouse's odd behavior. Unless you have proof of infidelity on the part of your spouse, or he or she has admitted to cheating, you should not make accusations. The only thing that will result is more stress and tension. You are liable to anger your spouse either way. If a spouse is guilty of infidelity, a confrontation will most likely produce anger, because he or she will feel exposed. If a spouse is not cheating, he or she may be upset by a lack of trust.

If you do suspect your spouse is being unfaithful, but you are hesitant to approach him or her with your suspicions, you might try discussing it with a marriage counselor to see how they would advise you. Most people would talk to a friend or relative that has been through a similar situation, and this is fine if you feel comfortable discussing your marital problems, but you should seek advice from a professional. The reason for this is that each couple is different, and so is every situation. What worked for a friend in his or her relationship may not be appropriate, or produce the same results for you and your relationship.

Others can give you their opinion, but only you can decide what you feel is best in your situation. You know your spouse better than anyone else. If you must discuss the situation with a friend or relative, be certain that it is someone you can trust that will not run back and tell your spouse of your suspicions, unless you want him or her to know. Even so, it may be best that you try to sit down and discuss your feelings with your spouse rationally, rather than to have him or her hear of your suspicions from an outside source. Once again, it may be best to seek the assistance of a professional.